2009年11月23日星期一

逆鳞

何谓逆鳞?
龙有逆鳞,触及必死
答案补充
其实是形容平时温驯的龙,身上有部份的鳞片是逆着生长的,相传如果误触了龙身上逆生的鳞片,龙就会暴怒


逆鳞是个人容忍的极限,甚至可以说是个人最不能接受别人触碰的底线。

我好几次不在意见得罪了几位朋友,不小心碰到了他们的底线,说了些我不该说的话语,我觉得我该道歉,在这里我说声对不起,也不知道他们会不会看到,可是也不要紧了,反正我这个部落格也不是很热闹,这里只是我发泄情绪的小小版位。

其实我觉得自己的嘴巴还蛮坏的,常讲人家的是非,甚至当面批评,有时还带有人身攻击或粗口之类,尤其是在打dota的时候,简直就是着了魔。我都怀疑自己的学历水平,到底我是不是个大学生。。也许是受到环境影响,也许是社会文化,也许是自己步入迷途,也许也许.....

记得前段时期,我常会叫我好友为“败家仔”,因为我个人觉得他花钱的本事远远超过了他赚钱的本事,虽然他花得起,而且家人也没有反对他花,甚至他老爸还给得起他的花费,但是那到底还是他家里的钱啊!当然,他不是A级的败家,因为还没有花到那个程度,但是49分的不及格跟0分的不及格,也是一样不及格,难道五十步就取笑百步吗?

有些人会跟我讲,甚至我自己的另外一人格都会告诉自己,“别人的事情怎么轮到你去管?别人的钱怎样花难道要问过你吗?”

我到现在,有时还会这样地问自己,不停地重复同样的问题,然后给回自己同样的答案。我会告诉自己,做人,要有自己的原则,当你把一个人列为朋友,就要负上朋友该有的责任。那朋友的责任又是什么?吃喝玩乐吗?个人认为自己朋友,就该在认知的生活圈子内,互相帮忙,鼓励,提醒,分享...我认为你是我朋友的话,我会提醒你,提醒你我个人认为不对的道理,我认为不该的事情,虽然方法有些不太对,甚至惹得你不开心,但是我觉得是一种必要,至于你改不改,听不听,我绝对没有权力去干涉,也没有那个意思。你可以骂我多事八卦,甚至放弃这段友谊,但是我依然会负上这所谓的朋友责任!

有点远扯了,回来这版的标题——逆鳞,所以我还是要对那位有些许败家的朋友道个歉,以后你想怎样就怎样了,我再也不会使用那个称呼,因为我已经做了我觉得应该做的,多余的劝解只是会磨损你我可贵的友谊。在你的眼里,我也许不是你最要好的朋友,甚至连好朋友都称不上,可是,在我眼里,你是,你们绝对是!我不在乎他人的眼光,我活在我的世界,我唱反对,我行我素,我有自己的信念,坚持,原则!

今天,又碰到了另外个朋友的逆鳞,只是这个绝对是无心的,纯粹是个无意的玩笑!我完全不知道那些事情对于你来说,会是如此的重视。可是,你还想继续为那些无聊的想法而不开心吗?为那些虚无飘渺的事物而烦恼吗?每个人都有自己活着的世界,难道你就一定要学人家吗?对,有些东西是需要取自于别人的长处,但是有必要如此地在意吗?更何况你没有付出就想得到?如果你想要学的话,就去学啦!无需再整天唉声叹气。

每个人都有自己的底线,自己的逆鳞,至于我,当然也不例外。被人一次次地触碰自己的逆鳞,心里当然很不好受,可是我能怎样?!!除了看开、学习、成长,我不知道还能怎样去处理这些事情,尤其是对自己的好友……

尾声,我想对那些我弄到他不爽我的人,那些被我抵触的人,说声对不起

5 条评论:

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  2. from bear(related name was deleted):

    er, tailou...y u keep on saying i pai ka zai?
    "当然,他不是A级的败家,因为还没有花到那个程度,但是49分的不及格跟0分的不及格,也是一样不及格"
    nabeh...1st,all the $$ i using to buy thing is PTPTN $$ and monthly expenses at KL...and all the money i use is future money? Please,the $$ i need to return in future ok? I admit i spent $$ very fast... so u can say i pai ka myself... but just dun say i pai ka my father $$?
    I never go n ask my father, "papa i wan rm500" can giv me?
    And lastweek u know i wan borrow $$ from choo because i not enough to pay school fees, but i oso dun tell my father i wan $$ from him... and i told u my frenz steal my credit card to use,he return RM1400 to me...the day after i str8 bank in the $$ to my father RM1400...if i pai ka....will i return all the $$ to my father since i know i not enough to pay fees? y dun i lie them or giv them Less of the amount?

    WTF? ! U dunno my thing dont simply judge for me ok?
    maybe u thinking i driving the vios and go modify thing is pai ka....but i can tell u... do i force my father to buy me that car? NO
    and since the car only i use now(my father will get my lil bro a car soon), so i modify the car using "my own $$" because is my hobby,but i think is not yours...maybe u will think i sohai coz make the car even more uglier...but that is your point of view...every1 is different.

    BUT wat you see now is external...i admit i like to "show off" my thing infront of frenz (car,phone or watever) but u dunno the true story
    behind (u see i use $$ like use water) then just simply judge i pai ka my family $$.... Then afterthat all frenz put bad impression on me because your word...
    and i hope u dun put "my bad impression" to your family so that they judge me same like u...especially your lil brother...
    since you know our brother is good frenz...i dun hope your brother too put my bad impression to my lil brother.
    AND 1 thing? Do you "use" your own eye see i ask $$ from my family?

    if i were u,why dont i say XXXXXXX is pai ka since he always ask $$ from his parents when he no $$ ? because i think every1 living style is different
    maybe your PTPTN $$ control by ur family so u will think differently on me...but, is our living style the same ?? Probably NO
    i know you are very "节省", but dont think every1 must follow u ok?

    If XXXXXXX say me pai ka i no diu him la...coz he is no meaning to me....but you're my best frenz...i dun wan u misunderstand on me....
    and plz change this "bad impression" on me.
    THEREFORE, i really wan to fuck u for your blog...because it is really provoking me !

    Lesson for you:
    "DONT SIMPLY JUDGE PPL PAI KA BY JUST SEE-ING THE PPL CURRENT SITUATION"

    o0o

    and this message is for you to know the true fact, not i dun wan frenz wif u anymore... dun misunderstand
    Jio me dota n yumcha when u free :D


    sry for bad english too

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  3. from bear again:

    "因为我个人觉得他花钱的本事远远超过了他赚钱的本事,虽然他花得起,而且家人也没有反对他花,甚至他老爸还给得起他的花费,但是那到底还是他家里的钱啊!"

    1 month my father give me RM500 expenses at KL
    Rental RM210

    RM500 - 210 = RM290

    Do you think RM290 can giv me buy "So much of thing" and to "Pai ka"

    please take note i havent count streamyx water electric bill and $$ to eat


    Where my $$ come from? = PTPTN
    use PTPTN = pai ka zai? WOW!

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  4. i m not saying you, dont missunderstand.
    er...i m not saying anybody too, tis is jz a place for me to write all my emotion.

    and, don repeat this topic under any circumstances, becoz i oredi forget this case in my real world.

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  5. from feeder:

    don bring such topic again into our relationship, i m not saying anything but jz sorry in the topic..sorry for wat i had done to you in the past since it make you hurt.

    same here, you are my best friend! and i m not provoking you! just pointing the fact i done and my view in the past BUT not now...i oredi "look open" during that time we bought the mask. you don miss understand please...i admit wat i had judged wrong to you, so i just post out my apologize ytd..of coz i m not totally saying you.

    and lastly,
    jio me limteh/dota/any activities too when you are free :D

    o0o < our symbolic hand gesture?

    regards

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